Recently, Mr Richard asked an interesting question in Character Building class. "What are some of the qualities you want/look for in a guy?" This meaning like, future husband, boyfriend, etc (mate?!).
Just felt like clarifying the 3 qualities I spoke about (I am AWFUL at spontaneous improvisation so the answer I gave in class was really short and stilted).
Okay, in a super ideal world and situation, I'd want a guy who's...
1.) Smart.
And I mean in terms of brains. Really doesn't have to be like rocket-scientist, straight A's, Mensa type.
But you know, at least somewhat intellectual and knowledgeable so I can pick his brain at times and we can have stimulating nerdy discussions/conversations!
I used to have Bruneian poklens hit on me and ask me out and AHEM, I think you can tell for yourself the huge mental gap there ("used to" cause I grew up and learnt to get the fuck away from that crowd).
2.) Funny.
As in a good sense of humour and can make me laugh and tell jokes and stuff. Or just say random funny things. Cause, sadly, I'm not THAT funny of a person (don't expect to have very many laughs when you visit my blog T_T).
I have a good sense of humour yeah, but when I say things meant to be funny, nobody ever laughs! Instead, they laugh when I say something that I don't even realize is funny at first... :S
So if like I date someone else not funny/no comic timing... die lah our relationship every day also stare at each other with stone face lagi -_- That would so never work out.
3.) Caring.
He has to care about me, my wellbeing, my feelings, my opinions and our relationship. And he has to show it. Can't be some reckless fool playing with my emotions (gah)!
I think all girls want the caring, lowmantic type who makes them feel really secure. And if they don't, they bloody well should!!
As you can see, I'm not unreasonable at all in my demands! Super simple ones only :) Cause I know I'm far from perfect too.
May I point out that LOOKS and MONEY isn't even on the list!!! To be honest, I mostly look at character only. Because I truly think that looks are in the eye of the beholder, everybody has different tastes. The guy you might find very fugly, could look really cute to me loh! I've seen girls get dreamy over guys who I honestly think look REALLY bad. See? All about individual tastes. "Hot/sexy/cute" is subjective!
And as long as he's not a beggar/destitute (where the fuck would I even meet guys like this anyway?? School, workplace, club?! I don't think so!), then I'm okay already, because I plan to make my own fortune! *eiseh*
However, I know that at the end of the day, when you fall in love with someone, all this "criteria" just fly out of your head. You cease to think, to be rational, to have reason. That head-over-heels feeling. God knows I've been involved with enough guys who are so totally wrong for me to know what it's like already.
But I suppose, marriage is (supposed to be) different. When you're ready to make that final decision, you really have to take a step back and evaluate your relationship and ask yourself, is this the person I truly want to spend the rest of my life with? No naive whirlwind romance nonsense!!!
Hopefully, one day I'll have enough sense to ask myself that very question when the time comes.
So... if you're single right now, care to share what are some of the things you'd look for in a guy/girl? :)
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